Sara . I went back in for more toner, but it never lasted more than one or two shampoos, so I gave up on both toning the highlights and that particular hairstylist. Moisture definitely helps with all types of hair. So my plan is to go and get about 4 inches cut off and then do some low lights. Many women want to keep their hair long, but don’t want to sport the calico look. My hair just couldn’t handle any more bleaching at that point. I learned how hair products worked differently on my hair at different lengths. What are the growing hair out stages and what can you do to grow your hair out like a pro? If you’re blonde with not a lot of gray, it will be easier and there won’t be much of a line of demarcation. When I decided to […], Plastic to the left, plastic to the right, plastic, plastic everywhere in sight!! Even though she used a breakthrough product called Olaplex to dramatically reduce damage from bleaching, it was still risky to use as many foils (close to 100!) I’ll bet a lot of women are either starting their process now, Sara, or are considering it, especially since the shutdowns have given them a head-start. There is peace on the other side of a gray hair transition. The fact that you’re going to go shorter with your haircut will help to make the process easier. Then I will start growing my hair long enough to have a gray braid that cascades over my shoulder (kind of like this). Upon first inspection my reaction was oh no thats appalling!!!! Like you, my nice hair is part of my identity- Like you, cutting it short would be a disaster!! Oct 1, 2020 - Explore Sarah Harte's board "Growing Out Grey Hair", followed by 387 people on Pinterest. I hated the color of my hair, too, after my highlights went brassy, but like you I didn’t want to cut my hair short. I think that going “old school” is the best approach and the scarves and hats will definitely help. It is a bit messy – I spray it outside – and you do get a fine bit of silver on your hands if you touch your hair. And a cool complexion with olive tones thanks to my Italian half. I did ask them to take photos, though, so I’m including those below (I’m not sure I’d want to wear that puffy of a “messy bun” anyway…). They can be tricky and if your dyed hair is dark, there is more potential for them to turn brassy because the color often isn’t lifted enough in one go. I thought that adding short, gray hair to the mix might have been too much for me to handle along with aging, body changes, and hormonal weight gain. NOTE:  I have done more recent updates on my gray hair transition HERE and HERE. I came across this article (and your blog) while researching my options for growing my grey hair out. If none of them are comfortable with bleaching the highlights enough to take them to white, and if I still think I want to go grey, then I’ll just let it all grow out and deal with the demarcation line and hide the outgrowth with hats and scarves. I will need to do it every 8 weeks and that will get incredibly expensive. I eat organic, try not to clean with too many chemicals, live on all sorts of essential oils so natural next step right? Unfortunately, the toner quickly faded – this is before and after just one wash! I loved being grey, and had grey hair for about 3 years. My mother had gorgeous silver hair. I have naturally ash or dark blond hair and have highlighted sometimes low lighted it for years. I don’t hate my hair anymore – this post was over two years ago! The grow grey out, with no additional processing: Without a doubt, growing out your hair slowly is the most difficult. it’s been about 2 years and I am done with the hassle and fake look of dye. Big virtual hugs from a fellow going-grey-er ! I colored it for his “Christmas present”. Never getting over it, somehow getting on with it. It can be difficult to swim against the tide in all areas of life, and embracing natural hair when most women use hair dye is no exception. I’ve been dying my hair since I began going grey at age 20 – I am now 40 and am sick of keeping up with the dye and having my hair chemically treated. I know full well how hard that is and how difficult the entire process is. It is easier with everyone in lock down here in Long Island NY. Some love it because it scores them points with the ladies. That way, I could have had the toner done less frequently or stopped it altogether. Congratulations on your decision to put your health first, Joann! I really didn’t like the pixie cut I got. tell yourself that you can color again in a month (or a few weeks or whatever you decide) if you still feel the same way. Without the color (bleach blond) my hair is thicker and healthier than its been in years! I hear you on needing a haircut, but at least we’re not alone in that regard… I wish you all the best with your transition. If I were to offer any advice, I would recommend the following: Many women try more than once to grow out their natural hair and that’s okay. I think a lot of hairstylists don’t really know how to best help women to transition to gray, as it was common to just color one’s hair well into old age for many years. Good luck to you! I have supportive friends and another friend who just says it looks terrible, she’s just extremely honest at times! The growing out phase can last a few months up to a year, depending on how fast your hair grows and how much needs to grow out. I always assumed I would start weaving grey/silver into my hair until it all grew out.. but are you saying even with blonds it doesn’t work that way?? I know it’s hard to accept such a rough setback. Go all in and let your hair do its thing. It is possible and it is worth it. I turned 60 this April 2020 and with the COVID pandemic and staying home, stopped coloring my hair. Like you I wish I had read this article 2 days ago – I’ve cried and cried but now I have to accept what it is and move forward naturally. I’m going to follow your advice and do an one of two low-lights in the beginning and chop off hair from shoulder to chin length. I agree with Naomi that pretty much without fail, the women I’ve seen who have gone gray look better and often younger as well. Finally in January I dyed my hair for the last time because in February my dermatologist told me that I had a basal cell carcinoma on my arm. Eventually I will be done transitioning, but it’s going to take much longer than I thought. I really had very little negativity. Thank you for leaving the name of the product you are trying. Me !!??? as she did. I brag to my adult kids “there’s no grey!” Thankfully, there are some proven tips and tricks to help you navigate the awkward stages gracefully, so you can arrive at your long-haired destination once and for all. I wish I would have been more willing to do that myself. My hair isn’t as gray as I’d hoped, but that will happen in time. I am so desperately tired of coloring my hair. Poetry, pieces and other bits of writing by Tarns Hood © Copyright 2014-2020 Visit my Official Website www.tarnshood.com. It’s not easy (although it’s not usually as difficult for others as I was for me! Only you can decide what’s best for you, but remember that it’s YOUR hair and YOUR choice! He hated the length and the gray. That has not always been the case for me. I guess you could say that I like to take risks with my hair. "Colour is so incredible now that it needn’t take weeks or months of growing out your hair, dyed or otherwise," he says. Good luck to you! Here I am in August 2017 – you can see the outgrowth more clearly in the side view. I think you looked just fine—great even!-the whole time. Hats, scarfs and who the hell knows what else. But Katie of Katie Goes Platinum has featured a lot of transition stories from women of various ages. It’s a big decision to undergo the graying process. It absolutely does not wash out. Although some women get very “zen” about the transition process, it’s tough for a lot of us and since going gray hasn’t been very common until more recently, there isn’t a lot of consistent help and guidance out there. I investigated this product further and asked my hairstylist if she thought it might be a good option for me. I'm going to the hair salon for the first time in a YEAR!! You WILL get through it, even though it will take a while. The ends are dead and the bottom color is turning really light. Dec 29, 2016 Shutterstock. So, it’s been about 6 months and I really need a haircut. – and most hairdressers are only aware of henna with compounds, not body-art completely-natural henna, which folks have been using for thousands of years) – but I feel so bad for you. You find out things about yourself that you would never know. But what about my flash, my panache, my je ne sais quoi??? I came across this article (and your blog) while researching my options for growing my grey hair out. Lowlights are less risky and can help at first with the line of demarcation (but I would only do those just in the beginning and then just let your hair grow out). It’s amazing isn’t it, when you are sat in that hairdresser’s chair you suddenly seem to lose all your power and go with what they want to do and not what you want. I hope that after you get your haircut and low lights (be careful not to do too many of those, as they can turn brassy for some people), you will feel better about your hair. The condition is the best it has been in years. At this point, I’m planning to keep doing small cuts until all of the remaining color is gone, but I’m not sure how long that will take. My point is I am going naturally grey with age but other women, strangers even, make the most unkind comments. Today. Growing out grey transition hair with highlights takes patience, sometimes it can feel like you just wake up and see it, maybe because someone may point it out. I think you are stunning in all your pictures, no matter what level of hell your hair has taken you to. Thank you for sharing your journey, and helping women like me avoid tough and expensive pitfalls. need a lot of it. I was already eight months into the process and had spent quite a bit of money on the highlights. Having always coloured my own hair (as it’s cheaper), I noticed the colour fading out really quickly and the re-growth was quite obvious. I apologize for my delayed reply, Linda. Jun 14, 2020 - Explore J Hall's board "gray hair growing out" on Pinterest. I hope you’ll be very happy with your natural hair! It may take me until late 2019 or 2020 to accomplish that goal, but it will happen! It behaves better with some length and weight to it. Pixie cut. Live and learn… Hopefully in time, no one will have to go through what I did as stylists learn more about both techniques and potential pitfalls. Naomi, Of course it’s okay to suggest other sites! I love the gray that is coming in! I might try to find a layered shorter hair style (my hair is at my shoulders now so not long, but not short) and then once I’m totally gray (1-2 years depending how short I go and my hair grows fairly fast) I can grow it back out if that is what I want to do. 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